This Guide to Understanding Men will aid you when trying to find the best ways for reaching a mans psyche. Getting along better with men will come much easier to you if you can understand them and know how we think. Here is sound advice to all women wanting to know tips on dating guys, relationship advice and more importantly, understanding more of how they think.
THE SECRETS TO UNDERSTANDING MEN – WHAT ALL WOMEN NEED TO KNOW
We (men) are superficial for the most part. Initially we can fall for a woman because of her exterior beauty but are slower to appreciate a woman’s internal beauty. A woman can treat a man like a king but if she is not confident in herself, we will soon lose interest. For example, if the only thing a man has in common with a woman is good sex, that relationship will be short lived. A woman can captivate a man by being intellectually stimulating while sharing common interests.
Communicating with us is the tricky part. We (men) know that you want us to be good listeners but you must also learn how to listen and observe us while we work, play and spend quality time with you. A man loves a woman that is supportive of his ideas providing they are good ones. Men like to feel in charge and want our lady to be encouraging when pursuing a new endeavor. That could be a new career, education or performing a major construction project in the house. We do not like conversing very much, but we tend to communicate our likes and dislikes through our actions. I’m big on non verbal communications. Majority of the time our body language conveys our thoughts.
Lets say that you are having financial problems. Having financial problems is common during a relationship, but it doesn’t have to cause a conflict. You should approach him and discuss possibly going on a budget. Suggest cutting back on some unnecessary expenses. Present a solution to the problem. Again communication is paramount. Do not wait until the situation gets out of control. At the first sign of financial struggle, bring it to his attention. He will be very appreciative of the fact that you are willing to make some temporary sacrifices in order to catch up on mounting expenses.
When it comes to sex, that is a separate issue altogether. We become very sensitive when we feel we’re not performing well in bed. While making love be suggestive and ask him to do the things you like and enjoy. A man will be more receptive to your suggestions in bed than in the car or while having dinner. Every man wants to please his woman and make her happy when it comes to sex. Changing the venue, as previously mentioned, is a way that will put the spark back in your love lives.
When it comes to the subject of marriage, I do not recommend a woman bringing the subject up within the first couple of dates. Allow the relationship to develop into something more meaningful before bringing the subject of marriage up. As a man develops stronger feelings for you, the more receptive he will become to the idea of marriage. Once this level of comfort is reached, then you should ask him what his feelings are on the subject.
Observe his reactions and let him know that marriage is important to you. Listen to his response while observing his body language. If the two contradict each other, you may have to re-evaluate the relationship and determine if marriage will become an issue later on. If he has no intentions on ever getting married then you should exit the relationship if this is what’s important to you.
Remember, that it takes practice to better understand anything of knowledge. If you want a better understanding of men, you have to practice the skills that I have advised for you. You’ll find that getting along with men is much easier once you have a better understanding of them.