Tip #1 – Define and Set Your Expectations

My first piece of dating advice for women would be to define and set clear expectations of what it is that you want out of the relationship.

a)  Know why she desires to be in a relationship  (Companionship, financial security, marriage, etc…) and what she expects to gain from being in one.

b)   Decide whether or not the man she is with wants the same things she wants (common interests, compatibility) providing she’s already in a relationship.

c)   Develop better listening and observation skills while being with your potential mate.

While doing the above, you will find that time is too valuable to waste and this will weed out the undesirables while saving yourself from much strife and heartache.

Tip #2 – Use Your Observation Skills

My second piece of dating advice for women would be to make greater use of your ability to observe and analyze a man’s behavior.  Proper observation and identification of behavior can and will make all the difference in a new relationship.

When a woman first meets the man she’s interested in, she should get to know him very well if she decides he may be someone she can see herself becoming serious with.  In the initial stages of dating, we (men) are going to want to impress you.  Let us talk and just sit back and listen.  Men reveal a lot about themselves initially when first meeting a woman.

Attend various functions with him when invited.  Observe how he interacts with his female colleagues, friends and family members alike.  Does he change in demeanor when he’s around others as opposed to when you are alone?  A woman should also know where her significant other works, know more about his family, perhaps even meeting them if possible.

Tip #3 – Know The Difference Between Honesty And Arrogance

My third piece of dating advice for women would be to understand that there is a difference between honesty and arrogance.  How fast you can make this distinction can have a huge impact on whether or not you take the next step with a man that you are interested in.

Men have to be confident in their initial approach.  Not arrogant.  There is a difference.  Also be honest from the on start of a relationship.  Research shows that women are turned on by confident and honest men.  They appreciate the honesty because a man is giving the woman the option as to whether or not she still wants to pursue the relationship after hearing what he has to say. Being honest shows confidence in a man.

I recall years ago inviting a young lady out for coffee after having a lengthy conversation.  She smiled and apologized to me indicating that she was already involved.  I simply returned the smile and informed her that I think she misunderstood my invitation.  I wasn’t asking her out on a date, I simply invited her out for coffee being that we had common interests.  Approximately two weeks after not seeing her, she invited me out to dinner asking where have I been these past couple of weeks.

Basically, we both had an interesting conversation, interesting enough to invite her out for coffee.  But I wasn’t going to mention it again.  The invite, as far as I was concerned, was me putting the ball in her court.  If she decided to pursue me she would let me know in due time.  Just like for the ladies, if a woman declines your advances after a few times of indicating your interest in her, move on.

Tip #4 – Have Your Personal Finances In Order

My last piece of dating advice for women is about money.  In past years, personal finances might not have been much of an issue for women.  This is simply no longer the case.  Women, just as much as men, should always make sure that their financial affairs are in order before pursuing a committed relationship.

Your career, financial security and having your own place are the first things that a woman generally should look at when evaluating a potential mate.  Dating is one thing but committing to someone is another.  Statistics show that over 50% of divorces occur over disputes involving money.  You can avoid being a victim of this by being financially secure before pursuing a serious relationship.

Ladies, if you take the time to address the key issues that I have outlined in this article, I am confident that you will be able to determine the pulse of your relationship.  I’d also love to hear your feedback. Whether your agree or disagree with my dating advice for women, I want to know about it – so please feel free to tell me what is on your mind.

-Adrian

What relationship advice do you offer for staying in a long term relationship?

I always liken a relationship to having a full time job.  Meaning the perks of being in a  relationship doesn’t end when you two are apart.  Finding out in the beginning what pleases each other and doing these things during the course of the relationship will add longevity.

If you feel that the relationship has grown stale, you both must come up with ways to rekindle that spark that attracted you to each other in the first place.  Everyone will encounter problems during the course of their relationship but try presenting a solution if possible.  If concerns are met with conflict and adversity, the passion and friendship will start to diminish.  But if two understanding people come together during the tough and difficult times, this will only strengthen their bond and enhance the relationship.

How do you advise women and men to get along in a relationship?

Communication is extremely important when being in any relationship.  When your significant other approaches you with a problem, try not to be dismissive and listen to what is being said.  Compromise is another important factor when being in a successful relationship.  This is a constant along with making sacrifices.  Not to the point were either of you are unhappy, but making adjustments that you can comfortably live with.

What relationship advice would you give to women for them to keep the man that they are with?

Women should be spontaneous in their actions when it comes to pleasing us.  We bore easily and our attention needs constant stimulation.  The things that impressed us about you from the beginning, keep doing them.  Just the way a woman likes to be surprised by her man with a bouquet of flowers delivered to her job, so is it that we (men) like to be surprised as well.  Surprise him with his favorite negligee when he comes home from work.  Maybe make love to him in a different venue.  Also allow a man to be a man.  Let him make decisions in the household that take corrective measures.  Whether it involves your children’s studies or deciding disciplinary actions, let him handle the situation.  If he exhibited sound decision making abilities in the past, then continue to allow him to do so.

What relationship advice would you give to men for staying in a long term relationship?

Men should also be spontaneous and resort to the things he did while in the infancy of their relationship.  Women love to be listened to especially when a man is responsive to her needs.  It not only shows that you listen to her concerns, but you are willing to act upon them and handle the situation as well.  Women appreciate a man that takes charge.  A confident man that makes decisions beneficial to you both will strengthen any relationship.

Take this Relationship Advice and see if it brings out positive changes in your own personal relationship with your mate. The possibilities are endless!

THE SECRETS TO UNDERSTANDING MEN – WHAT ALL WOMEN NEED TO KNOW

UNDERSTANDING

We (men) are superficial for the most part.  Initially we can fall for a woman because of her exterior beauty but are slower to appreciate a woman’s internal beauty.  A woman can treat a man like a king but if she is not confident in herself, we will soon lose interest.  For example, if the only thing a man has in common with a woman is good sex, that relationship will be short lived.  A woman can captivate a man by being intellectually stimulating while sharing common interests.

COMMUNICATING

Communicating with us is the tricky part.  We (men) know that you want us to be good listeners but you must also learn how to listen and observe us while we work, play and spend quality time with you.  A man loves a woman that is supportive of his ideas providing they are good ones.  Men like to feel in charge and want our lady to be encouraging when pursuing a new endeavor.  That could be a new career, education or performing a major construction project in the house.  We do not like conversing very much, but we tend to communicate our likes and dislikes through our actions.  I’m big on non verbal communications.  Majority of the time our body language conveys our thoughts.

MONEY

Lets say that you are having financial problems. Having financial problems is common during a relationship, but it doesn’t have to cause a conflict.  You should approach him and discuss possibly going on a budget.  Suggest cutting back on some unnecessary expenses.  Present a solution to the problem.  Again communication is paramount. Do not wait until the situation gets out of control.  At the first sign of financial struggle, bring it to his attention.  He will be very appreciative of the fact that you are willing to make some temporary sacrifices in order to catch up on mounting expenses.

SEX

When it comes to sex, that is a separate issue altogether.  We become very sensitive when we feel we’re not performing well in bed.  While making love be suggestive and ask him to do the things you like and enjoy.  A man will be more receptive to your suggestions in bed than in the car or while having dinner.  Every man wants to please his woman and make her happy when it comes to sex.  Changing the venue, as previously mentioned, is a way that will put the spark back in your love lives.

MARRIAGE

When it comes  to the subject of marriage, I do not recommend a woman bringing the subject up within the first couple of dates.  Allow the relationship to develop into something more meaningful before bringing the subject of marriage up.  As a man develops stronger feelings for you, the more receptive he will become to the idea of marriage.  Once this level of comfort is reached, then you should ask him what his feelings are on the subject.

Observe his reactions and let him know that marriage is important to you.  Listen to his response while observing his body language.  If the two contradict each other, you may have to re-evaluate the relationship and determine if marriage will become an issue later on.  If he has no intentions on ever getting married then you should exit the relationship if this is what’s important to you.

Remember, that it takes practice to better understand anything of knowledge. If you want a better understanding of men, you have to practice the skills that I have advised for you. You’ll find that getting along with men is much easier once you have a better understanding of them.