If you’ve read Steve Harvey’s, “Act Like A Woman, Think Like A Man,” you will definitely want to read this book. “Ladies, The Writing Is On The Wall” is a direct response to Steve Harvey’s book of ideas on how men think and feel in today’s society. Ladies, forget the old-school way of dealing with men…it’s time to check into a new-school and learn the up-to-date version of understanding men.

Adrian Weber’s, “Ladies, The Writing Is On The Wall,” is now available for the world to see, touch, and own. Say goodbye to the mysteries of dating and relationships. Adrian Weber’s common sense tactics to dating and having long term relationships is just what every woman needs to know. You’ll be amazed to find that understanding men can easily be accomplished if you have an understanding of yourself.

“Ladies, The Writing Is On The Wall” will be every woman’s own personal guide to having a better understanding of men; dating men; healthy relationships with men and advice on how women can also better understand themselves.

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Take a sneak peak into the book ~

Ladies, the Writing is on the Wall is a no nonsense straight-to-the-point kind of book. Adrian Weber delivers to you a compilation of relationship scenarios obtained during numerous interviews conducted by him.  The author then gives an analytical view as to why the relationship went awry while prompting the interviewee to retrospectively see why they choose to remain in the relationship.  Filled with thought provoking quotes such as;

When a man loves you, he will come and do the things you ask of him, whereas when a man is in love he will do the things that you would expect of him.

A man can be infatuated and think he’s in love, whereas a woman will be in love and think of it as infatuation.

A confident woman will have the capacity to know when a relationship is going awry.

Every woman has different reasons as to why she chooses to be involved in a relationship and should ask the question, “What’s in it for me?”

A woman should not have to change or conform to what a man wants.  She merely needs to know what it is she wants and behaviors she is willing to tolerate during the course of their relationship.”

The author, while giving witty analogies explains the difference between someone who loves you and someone that is in love with you. You would be surprise to know the difference.

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Tip #1 – Define and Set Your Expectations

My first piece of dating advice for women would be to define and set clear expectations of what it is that you want out of the relationship.

a)  Know why she desires to be in a relationship  (Companionship, financial security, marriage, etc…) and what she expects to gain from being in one.

b)   Decide whether or not the man she is with wants the same things she wants (common interests, compatibility) providing she’s already in a relationship.

c)   Develop better listening and observation skills while being with your potential mate.

While doing the above, you will find that time is too valuable to waste and this will weed out the undesirables while saving yourself from much strife and heartache.

Tip #2 – Use Your Observation Skills

My second piece of dating advice for women would be to make greater use of your ability to observe and analyze a man’s behavior.  Proper observation and identification of behavior can and will make all the difference in a new relationship.

When a woman first meets the man she’s interested in, she should get to know him very well if she decides he may be someone she can see herself becoming serious with.  In the initial stages of dating, we (men) are going to want to impress you.  Let us talk and just sit back and listen.  Men reveal a lot about themselves initially when first meeting a woman.

Attend various functions with him when invited.  Observe how he interacts with his female colleagues, friends and family members alike.  Does he change in demeanor when he’s around others as opposed to when you are alone?  A woman should also know where her significant other works, know more about his family, perhaps even meeting them if possible.

Tip #3 – Know The Difference Between Honesty And Arrogance

My third piece of dating advice for women would be to understand that there is a difference between honesty and arrogance.  How fast you can make this distinction can have a huge impact on whether or not you take the next step with a man that you are interested in.

Men have to be confident in their initial approach.  Not arrogant.  There is a difference.  Also be honest from the on start of a relationship.  Research shows that women are turned on by confident and honest men.  They appreciate the honesty because a man is giving the woman the option as to whether or not she still wants to pursue the relationship after hearing what he has to say. Being honest shows confidence in a man.

I recall years ago inviting a young lady out for coffee after having a lengthy conversation.  She smiled and apologized to me indicating that she was already involved.  I simply returned the smile and informed her that I think she misunderstood my invitation.  I wasn’t asking her out on a date, I simply invited her out for coffee being that we had common interests.  Approximately two weeks after not seeing her, she invited me out to dinner asking where have I been these past couple of weeks.

Basically, we both had an interesting conversation, interesting enough to invite her out for coffee.  But I wasn’t going to mention it again.  The invite, as far as I was concerned, was me putting the ball in her court.  If she decided to pursue me she would let me know in due time.  Just like for the ladies, if a woman declines your advances after a few times of indicating your interest in her, move on.

Tip #4 – Have Your Personal Finances In Order

My last piece of dating advice for women is about money.  In past years, personal finances might not have been much of an issue for women.  This is simply no longer the case.  Women, just as much as men, should always make sure that their financial affairs are in order before pursuing a committed relationship.

Your career, financial security and having your own place are the first things that a woman generally should look at when evaluating a potential mate.  Dating is one thing but committing to someone is another.  Statistics show that over 50% of divorces occur over disputes involving money.  You can avoid being a victim of this by being financially secure before pursuing a serious relationship.

Ladies, if you take the time to address the key issues that I have outlined in this article, I am confident that you will be able to determine the pulse of your relationship.  I’d also love to hear your feedback. Whether your agree or disagree with my dating advice for women, I want to know about it – so please feel free to tell me what is on your mind.

-Adrian

1. What inspired you to become a writer?

It’s funny you should ask that.  I really never considered myself to be a writer or possess the ability to effectively convey my thoughts and ideas on paper until an English professor thought otherwise.  I wrote an essay on the subject of hunting and had to elaborate on why I either agreed or disagreed with this pastime.  The professor reviewing my essay was impressed and considered me to have the skills necessary to become a writer.  I was very pleased with his evaluation.  Not only because I tested out and saved $1400.00 by not having to take an English course as a prerequisite that semester but felt that I had an invaluable skill that can be improved upon.  With my most recent work, I felt the need to clarify and fill in the void of missing information that authors neglect to write about when it comes to the matters of relationships, intimacy and love.

2. How did you get started?

Ironically enough, it all started out as a joke while at work.  I overheard some of my female colleagues complain about a recent book they’ve read.  It was written by a comedian I believe.  They said the information it contained was redundant and outdated.  Being facetious, I told them I should write a response.  I found out the title and picked up a copy to see what they were talking about.  I agreed with their reviews and felt further clarification was needed on the subject being discussed.  This is how I came to write my project entitled Ladies, the Writing is on the Wall.

3. Who do your books relate to more, men or women?

I would have to say women.  Ladies, the Writing is on the Wall elaborates on what a woman needs to determine prior to entering a relationship.  It also gives her insight as to why she needs to become a better listener and observer of her man’s behavior.  More importantly, I explain the different forms of abuse and how to recognize these signs before it becomes too late.

4. Who do you feel should read Ladies, the Writing is on the Wall?

My book specifically targets the woman who feels like she doesn’t really understand her man, but yet, wants to.  She has started noticing that men exhibit certain signs and that she has misinterpreted these signs in her past relationships. She wants to avoid those problems in this relationship because she wants this one to last.  Furthermore, she wants to learn to properly recognize these signs and to also be able to understand what they really mean in a relationship with a man.  She now knows that the key to having a successful and lasting relationship with any man is understanding how men communicate with women.

To get your copy of  “Ladies, The Writing Is On The Wall”, visit the following online retailers for more information and book purchases.

http://www.authorhouse.com

http://www.barnesnoble.com

http://www.amazon.com

http://www.ebooks.com (mid-February)

What relationship advice do you offer for staying in a long term relationship?

I always liken a relationship to having a full time job.  Meaning the perks of being in a  relationship doesn’t end when you two are apart.  Finding out in the beginning what pleases each other and doing these things during the course of the relationship will add longevity.

If you feel that the relationship has grown stale, you both must come up with ways to rekindle that spark that attracted you to each other in the first place.  Everyone will encounter problems during the course of their relationship but try presenting a solution if possible.  If concerns are met with conflict and adversity, the passion and friendship will start to diminish.  But if two understanding people come together during the tough and difficult times, this will only strengthen their bond and enhance the relationship.

How do you advise women and men to get along in a relationship?

Communication is extremely important when being in any relationship.  When your significant other approaches you with a problem, try not to be dismissive and listen to what is being said.  Compromise is another important factor when being in a successful relationship.  This is a constant along with making sacrifices.  Not to the point were either of you are unhappy, but making adjustments that you can comfortably live with.

What relationship advice would you give to women for them to keep the man that they are with?

Women should be spontaneous in their actions when it comes to pleasing us.  We bore easily and our attention needs constant stimulation.  The things that impressed us about you from the beginning, keep doing them.  Just the way a woman likes to be surprised by her man with a bouquet of flowers delivered to her job, so is it that we (men) like to be surprised as well.  Surprise him with his favorite negligee when he comes home from work.  Maybe make love to him in a different venue.  Also allow a man to be a man.  Let him make decisions in the household that take corrective measures.  Whether it involves your children’s studies or deciding disciplinary actions, let him handle the situation.  If he exhibited sound decision making abilities in the past, then continue to allow him to do so.

What relationship advice would you give to men for staying in a long term relationship?

Men should also be spontaneous and resort to the things he did while in the infancy of their relationship.  Women love to be listened to especially when a man is responsive to her needs.  It not only shows that you listen to her concerns, but you are willing to act upon them and handle the situation as well.  Women appreciate a man that takes charge.  A confident man that makes decisions beneficial to you both will strengthen any relationship.

Take this Relationship Advice and see if it brings out positive changes in your own personal relationship with your mate. The possibilities are endless!

THE SECRETS TO UNDERSTANDING MEN – WHAT ALL WOMEN NEED TO KNOW

UNDERSTANDING

We (men) are superficial for the most part.  Initially we can fall for a woman because of her exterior beauty but are slower to appreciate a woman’s internal beauty.  A woman can treat a man like a king but if she is not confident in herself, we will soon lose interest.  For example, if the only thing a man has in common with a woman is good sex, that relationship will be short lived.  A woman can captivate a man by being intellectually stimulating while sharing common interests.

COMMUNICATING

Communicating with us is the tricky part.  We (men) know that you want us to be good listeners but you must also learn how to listen and observe us while we work, play and spend quality time with you.  A man loves a woman that is supportive of his ideas providing they are good ones.  Men like to feel in charge and want our lady to be encouraging when pursuing a new endeavor.  That could be a new career, education or performing a major construction project in the house.  We do not like conversing very much, but we tend to communicate our likes and dislikes through our actions.  I’m big on non verbal communications.  Majority of the time our body language conveys our thoughts.

MONEY

Lets say that you are having financial problems. Having financial problems is common during a relationship, but it doesn’t have to cause a conflict.  You should approach him and discuss possibly going on a budget.  Suggest cutting back on some unnecessary expenses.  Present a solution to the problem.  Again communication is paramount. Do not wait until the situation gets out of control.  At the first sign of financial struggle, bring it to his attention.  He will be very appreciative of the fact that you are willing to make some temporary sacrifices in order to catch up on mounting expenses.

SEX

When it comes to sex, that is a separate issue altogether.  We become very sensitive when we feel we’re not performing well in bed.  While making love be suggestive and ask him to do the things you like and enjoy.  A man will be more receptive to your suggestions in bed than in the car or while having dinner.  Every man wants to please his woman and make her happy when it comes to sex.  Changing the venue, as previously mentioned, is a way that will put the spark back in your love lives.

MARRIAGE

When it comes  to the subject of marriage, I do not recommend a woman bringing the subject up within the first couple of dates.  Allow the relationship to develop into something more meaningful before bringing the subject of marriage up.  As a man develops stronger feelings for you, the more receptive he will become to the idea of marriage.  Once this level of comfort is reached, then you should ask him what his feelings are on the subject.

Observe his reactions and let him know that marriage is important to you.  Listen to his response while observing his body language.  If the two contradict each other, you may have to re-evaluate the relationship and determine if marriage will become an issue later on.  If he has no intentions on ever getting married then you should exit the relationship if this is what’s important to you.

Remember, that it takes practice to better understand anything of knowledge. If you want a better understanding of men, you have to practice the skills that I have advised for you. You’ll find that getting along with men is much easier once you have a better understanding of them.

5. Looking back, is there anything you would change about your book?

If I had to make any changes, it would be additional information.  I find as a writer, there is always room for improvement.  Adding statistics also helps to maintain integrity in my work and the people that assist me will see the authenticity in the book.

6. Did being a police officer have an impact on the book?

I currently work in law enforcement in the rank of detective.  My experience has been instrumental in my material being sincere and empathetic.  My career allows me to have access to many other professionals whose opinions helped contribute realism to my work.

7. What kind of books do you like reading?

I enjoy reading various works on history, alternative medicines, and spirituality as well as many others.  My methods are eclectic when it comes to the subjects I read about.  I really don’t indulge in fiction as much.  I like reading books that are informative and practical.

8. Is there any material that was left out of the book?

I do not feel that anything was left out.  I received a lot of insight from people I have interviewed and feel the book is complete.

9. What steps did you take to gather information on the advise you give in the book?

As I mention in the preface of my book, I was fortunate to have the opportunity of interviewing many colleagues, friends and referrals as well.  The information written is a compilation of the interviews that were granted and I was happy to share them with my readers.  There is a distinct element of knowing that this book is not merely based on my opinions as many authors tend to write about but the opinions of others who voluntarily decided to share their experiences.

10. What are your future plans in writing? Future books…how often do you write?

I have successfully written my first book Ladies, the Writing is on the Wall.  I enjoy the satisfaction of knowing that others benefit from my work.  I will continue to write and publish my work as fresh ideas come to mind that I feel will be insightful to my readers.  I have another project in the works entitled Our Quest for Greatness.  (What are you willing to sacrifice to achieve it?)  This book will be an eye opener for sure…!

11. What inspired you to write a relationship advise book for women?

Family, friends and coworkers alike.  As previously mentioned, I didn’t take the idea of writing a book on the subject involving relationships and intimacy seriously until I was prompted to do so by many of my family members and closest friends.

To get your copy of  “Ladies, The Writing Is On The Wall”, visit the following online retailers for more information and book purchases.

http://www.authorhouse.com

http://www.barnesnoble.com

http://www.amazon.com

http://www.ebooks.com (mid-February)